For that ram you will need to raise the VCCIO and System Agent Voltage to create and sustain stability. I am guessing you will need to set the XMP profile to 1 and then go down to VCCIO and Systems Agent voltage area in bios and raise it to at least 1.2v for both vccio and SA. This will be on the same page only closer to the bottom of where you set the XMP profile.
You might end up needing to go higher on voltage just don't go over 1.3 for everyday use. I would find the absolute minimum voltage where the memory doesn't die in mid flight like it's doing on you now. The recommendation to try lower memory speed is a good place to just get it booting because it requires less voltage for VCCIO and System Agent to run.
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