Funny thing is my Formula clocks ram better than the RIVE I have and I am talking with the same CPU.
You might not like what I am about to suggest but if you look around the forum you will see I tell it like it is and never bull**** anyone.
Maybe, just maybe your CPU (IMC) is not up to the task. I have one CPU that is a real dog of a IMC and I have had to lower my frequency of the ram I am using to manage it.
One last thing you can do is increase the dram voltage when you do the settings manually to two or three notches higher. With the X79 chipset you can actually go right up to 1.85 on the ram on the intel spec sheet. Not suggestion we get anywhere near that mind - 1.68 - 1.70 range to see if we can boot into OS with the sticks at the XMP profile.
VCCIO can be upped to 1.15 please as well.
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