You say you already have or that you already have decided on.
The extreme is a lovely board, but my first choice for a gaming rig would be between the formula (just ahead in my choice) and the hero.
The video card is quite simple wonder over to Anandtech and see what the different cards in your price range perform like. Navigate to the bench section and then select the 2013 vga's
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