Get your ram now, as the price is going to rocket in the next month. I would say 8GB is the bare minimum, 16GB is perfect for all games and is quite future-proof capacity wise.
A SSD for your OS and applications is the single biggest upgrade anyone can make. More so than a new CPU even. Good prices for large capacity at the minute in the UK.
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