Most users purchase good memory kits; the motherboard spec advertises something like DDR4-4000 so they buy something like DDR4-4000.
But yeah, a good CPU and properly tweaked memory configuration are required.
A question about the QVL ...
When, for instance, a particular 4x8GB DDR4-3600 kit is listed and "4 DIMMs" is specified, does that mean it was tested as 4x8GB DIMMs operating at rated XMP DDR4-3600 frequencies? Or just that all four DIMMs from that kit part/model can be recognized and addressed at natively-supported JEDEC SPD?
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